Anyways, every once in a while I find a guy who I have so
much chemistry with it’s scary. We connect on every level--mentally, physically
emotionally. Then, I realize there is
one thing in the back of my mind bothering me; I don’t trust him. Usually when
I get this feeling I let it go at first. Don’t want to make my judgment off of
intuition. Now I am never one to pry into a man’s private life to find out what
I want to know, but for some reason every time I get this feeling shortly after
some evidence pops up to back up why I feel this lack of trust. Usually it’s
something obvious on a social network or a friend gossiping. Soon I find out
that this guy deals with a number of females, and I’m turned all the way off.
Up comes my theoretical walls, and there goes the friend zone.
Although I feel it is right for me to cut this type of man
out of my life, sometimes I do feel like maybe I’m missing out on something
that could have been good. Yes, I know that just because a guy has relations
with other females does not mean his feelings for me weren’t real. Those other
females probably don’t even mean much to him (or that’s what he will try to
convince me). The fact is, he’s not going to only be attracted to a woman he
has feelings for. Is it right for me to cut off something that was going good
for females who probably aren’t on my level in his eyes?
There are plenty of women in my life who have the same
thoughts, but unlike me continue to take their men back. I get that you love
him, but at the same damn time I just DON’T understand that shit. He just keeps
cheating, why do you keep letting him back? If that man really loves you, why
is he always putting himself in situations that he has to be constantly fucking
the next bitch? And yes, he put himself in the situation. If he knew he was
attracted to that girl, he should not have let himself end up in the same bed
as her. Now don’t get me wrong, not everyone goes into a situation thinking
they will end up sexing. Doesn’t really happen that way often though.
I understand what it feels like to be so in love with someone that you want to forgive them for everything they do, but how many times forgiving is too many? Everyone has temptation, but what a person does with that temptation is
what matters. A man who constantly puts himself in situations in which he is
alone with attractive females is NOT trying to fight temptation. Ladies, we need to stop letting men get away with these excuses and making them feel like we're going to be there no matter what. Cuz if yo ass starts sleeping with the next man TRUST he will be on to the next. If he is not doing right now, more than likely he is just not ready to commit to you. This behavior probably won't change for a very long time, if ever. Stick to your standards and don't let "love" get in the way of reality. Stop letting that nigga run you.
